What we’re discussing here, is how we figure and apply our time - what do we do with our time that we have available? There’s more time available out there in general, than what each of us as an individual has access to. That’s one of the components. Another component is - what do I want for me?
As kids, we’re first taught about what is right, and what is wrong. Children don’t yet have the capacity to figure out the grey areas, so we’re taught “either or’, in two separate compartments. Age and experience begins to teach us that, in fact, right and wrong aren’t cast in concrete; they are cast in jello. The situation strongly affects what the outcome could and should be, not some simple rule that worked when we were children. Life, in fact, is situational.
So are boats. The basic job of any boat is simple - stay afloat. Basically, if the boat remains afloat, it has fulfilled its primary purpose in Life. How well it performs any other task or requirement is secondary, or tertiary.. If an exotic boat sinks, it failed. If an ugly boat floats, it succeeded. How each of us defines beautiful, perfect, exotic, and all other superlatives are personal choices. We choose what is right for the situation, as WE see the situation.
Thoughts of others can be helpful, or not. Our personal thoughts are critical.